How To Act Like An Empath

 

Empathy

 The ability to understand and share the feelings of another. 

 

 Empath

 A person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.

 

Empaths Only 

 

 The first time I can vividly remember that I became aware of my “empath personality” was the first time I watched Schindler’s List. I will never forget how physically sick I felt, for at least a week after. It was truly all I could think about- the horrific images forever imprinted in my head.

 

What was even worse- was the realization that Holocaust victims are still alive, which concluded the harsh reality that this didn’t happen so long ago.Upon watching this movie, I became “obsessively fixated” on trying to learn everything I needed to about the atrocities of the Holocaust.

 

My teachers in high school were aware of my desire to learn about the Holocaust, and an opportunity presented itself where I was able to go listen to a Holocaust survivor speak about her experiences. Each local high school in our area was allowed to send one student from a grade to go.

 

I will never forget, as long as I live, once the speaker finished, as I was walking out of the room the speakers daughter called out to me and asked me to hang back as her mother wanted to talk to me.

 

I couldn’t believe it, a classroom of kids and she asked ME and ME ONLY to stay, not one other PERSON. Honestly at first I thought I was in trouble.

 

Once everyone left, she said something along the lines of “you were visibly upset pretty much the whole time i was speaking, I can tell this is very upsetting for you, did you know anyone who was in the holocaust?”

 

I so wanted to be able to say yes to explain why I was so visibly upset, instead I told the truth, which was simply “no.”

 

See what happened in that moment was that she recognized my empathy, and I recognized hers.

 

  What I mean is, that this woman who had seen a lifetime of pain and horror, I mean unspeakable and even unthinkable acts of human cruelty, she had absolutely NO obligation to speak out about her life experience, instead most people would understand that it is probably far to painful to do so.

 

 Instead, she felt such a deep sense of empathy for others, that she felt compelled to tell her story, because by sharing her heartache, and the horrors of the Holocaust, she had hoped that this would help to prevent something so unspeakable from happening again and more importantly that we can learn what happens when people don’t speak up in the name of injustice.  

 

So us Empaths, we always find each other, I believe it’s something in the eyes. I can always tell.

 

I am forever grateful she saw me in that moment.

 

I think of her often.

 

Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, Listening with the ears of another, feeling with the heart of the another.

 

 

Empath by Trait

 

 How many of you cry the second the ASPCA commercial with Sarah McLachlan’s song in the background comes on?

 

 How many of you felt physically sick upon learning the details of the Kobe Bryant Crash? 

 

 How many of you had sleepless nights upon truly understanding how prevalent systemic racism is in our country?

 

How many of you feel like there is almost no hope in the world when you learn about the abuse of innocent children or animals?

 

How Many of you cry when you watch a video of a soldier surprising their families? 

 

How many of you feel guilt for all that you have, when you know how little others have? 

 

 If you can answer yes to any of the above, you my friend are an Empath.

 

It Is Both a Blessing And A Curse To Feel Everything So Very Deeply. – D.J.

 

 

Life isn’t Fair

 

This realization is literally the most heartbreaking feeling for any Empath to come to terms with and honestly for me the saddest part about life is simply the fact that its WILDY UNFAIR, and I count myself as one of the VERY fortunate, therefore as an Empath often I feel very very guilty. 

 

For example, why was I born into a family who was able to pay for my college, when someone else, just as deserving-OR MORE DESERVING why can’t their college be paid for? Why do they have to work multiple jobs just to get by, to only have massive student loans? 

 

This my friends is what being an Empath is, and all I will say is that once you discover how magical your “Empath” gift is, use it for good. Feel for strangers like you would feel for a family member suffering, never be afraid to speak up and fight in the name of injustices.

 

You have a mighty mighty gift, let the world see it. 

 

And Empaths- I am so sorry to break your heart, but the world will never be as fair as we want it to be, and some people will not see it through our eyes, but that shouldn’t stop us from our life’s mission. 

 

Us empaths, we must stick together, and continue to normalize that it’s not weak to show emotions- it’s BADASS and what the world needs more of- NOW MORE THEN EVER. 

 

As Empaths We’re Not Here To Be Sponges or Enablers. We’re Here to Be Helpers, Guides, And Supporters.

 – Aletheia Luna

 

 

 

A SuperPower

I recently finished “Untamed” by Glennon Doyle WHICH WAS LIFE CHANGING. Although the book was AMAZING on every page, what stood out to me most was when Glennon was talking about the personalities of each of her children, specifically of her one daughter. 

 

 She talked about how her daughter deeply and profoundly feels the emotions of others. She explained that “empathy” was not a weakness of her daughter, rather empathy is her daughter’s “SuperPower”. The second I read that I honestly cried for about five minutes- it hit every nerve in my body. 

 

NEVER IN MY LIFE has being an empath been spoken about in such terms and from that moment forward it just clicked for me.

 

EMPATHY isn’t weak-

 

EMPATHY is a freaking SUPERPOWER and what the world NEEDS NOW MORE THEN EVER.

 

Programmed

In our society, little boys who cry are told “boy’s don’t cry, suck it up and be strong “all while little girls are expected to show all their emotions and to have this “damsel in distress” kind of attitude, waiting to be saved by a man because “men are tough and don’t show emotions” but “women are weak and do”.

 

 Did you know that men in the US are roughly 3.5 TIMES MORE LIKELY to commit suicide in comparison to women?  That statistic is astonishing to me and deeply, deeply, troubling.

 

Why do we teach that feeling the pain of others or showing emotions is weak?

 

We need more people to feel for others, to prevent inequality. We need the stigma to go away, and to realize that it’s not weak to feel, it’s brave.

 

Oh and as an Empath this breaks my heart. So to any men out there who have been taught its weak to show emotions, If you are reading this know its not.

Come join us Empaths!

 

Pandemic Politics

The other night I was with a few of my high school friends and politics got brought up-YEEEKS my weakness.

 

 If you follow me on Social Media you know I am “passionate” about politics- to say the least. (Passionate is a favorable word, Lol)

 

Anyways, we were having a good conversation however I became emotional and started crying because I became so passionate about the topics.

 

See for us Empaths- everything becomes PERSONAL- so yes people may say “why so personal” well it all feels so PERSONAL, because we FEEL FOR

EVERYONE. 

 

At first I felt guilty and shame because I was the only one crying. I felt so bad for unleashing my emotions and couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just

separate the emotions.

 

 I felt embarrassed and like I “lost my cool.” One of my friends actually went over and hugged me and said “I just love your passion so much” it instantly made me feel better.

 

 It made me snap back into it and realize that yes I need to work on listening to others debates in a political setting, but also as an Empath one of my main purposes in this world is to feel for others, as I would feel for myself or my family.

 

The biggest life lesson I have learned as an Empath, is that the world is a much more beautiful place when you concern yourself with the issues around you and thinking about how your behavior affects not just yourself but others.

 

 

 Feeling is BRAVE and FEELING is HUMAN.

 

  To be able to think and to feel the pain of others, while its draining, it’s even more rewarding.

 

In Conclusion

 

NO matter what your hidden talents or SuperPowers are, we all have an ability to feel for others. I challenge you to express empathy and understanding whenever you can.

 

Truly we have no idea what someone else is going through, so with that-simply BE NICE. 

 

Try not to judge others. 

 

Be empathic.

 

To all my empaths, your burden on this earth is truly one of the greatest gifts you can possess.

 

Use your gift wisely.

 

The world needs you.

 

Vibes
Xo,